Dating customs in sweden
I have dealt with the same, but opposite, problem both in the UK and North America but I wouldn't say that it's awkward.Different cultures and people simply have different ways of doing things.And people appear to be a little hesitant to try to communicate and find out.As a Swedish ex-pat I fully see where you're coming from.Also of note is that many Americans wait to get married before having sex.If this is not the case, there’s a three date rule when sleeping together is ‘acceptable’ in the dating world.You then know that the sexual attraction is there, no one has led the other person on, unless you expect having sex to lead to emotional commitment, and you are not too invested in the other person should it turn out that the only thing you have in common is that you both wanted to fuck each other at the same time. Sexual attraction is not the same as love and you can have one without the other.It's a very Scandinavian concept in general and, as we are getting more and more Americanised, something that sticks out more and more.
I always describe the way we "date" in Sweden as you sleep with someone enough times to consider if you like the person for more than just having sex.However, your sentiment that your Britishness is the root too your problem is very true.There is a reason why I am considered a heathen when I'm an English speaking country (as long as people are sober).Anglo Saxon cultures have a very different culture compared to Sweden when it comes to "dating".No wonder you find it "awkward" when it's not what you are used to.
Swedes don't "date" the way you guys do, so you're kinda spot on with you analysis.