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Listening to her experiences makes me want to set something on fire.
Christian has seen profiles declaring that they're interested in every race except black women, and someone once told her "her kind" wasn't "good enough to date." Another guy said he'd "always wanted to try a black girl" because rumor had it we're like "sexual toys." "I cried that night [after I got that message]," says Christian.
But it doesn't really bother her in person, and it likely wouldn't online. Some from a lack of education, others because they're from a different culture, and some are just plain stupid.
But it's never felt intentional," she explains.
Swiping through friends' dating apps gives me a legal high.
Like a lot of other women in long-term relationships, I totally missed the online-dating boat.
(And all groups rated white women as more attractive than average except black men.) Of course, people finding a woman more attractive than average doesn't mean they won't be racist to her, just that they might shift gears and do it in a different way."I went on a date with a guy from Tinder who had an Asian fetish, but I didn't realize until halfway through," Jenny C., 25, an Asian-American woman in Washington, D. "He started talking about how sexy these Asian dancers were, and I also found out that pretty much every other girl he'd seen on Tinder was Asian.
The clip is a great summary of so much annoying racial asshattery. All of the above isn't to say that race-related comments upset every woman who deals with them. Monica K., 26, an Asian woman in Baltimore, Maryland, hasn't come across these situations when online dating.
But guys have approached her in person to say things like, "I've never had an Asian before." "It's like I'm a Pokemon card," says Monica.
I felt objectified and grossed out." Jenny, who's tried Ok Cupid in addition to Tinder, has also experienced someone immediately trying to guess her ethnicity, which seems to be a pretty common experience for some women of color online. I just went to a Korean BBQ place.' I'm not Korean, and it's offensive to try to guess my ethnicity off the bat," she explains.
As you'll see, the "I'm going to assume or wonder if you're this ethnicity, then say something asinine about it" technique is clearly alive and well."Men have said dumb sh*t to me about Kama Sutra," Maya B., 25, a queer woman of desi descent who identifies as a first-generation American and second-generation Indian, tells SELF.
An oft-cited Ok Cupid study from 2014 backs this up.