Post divorce dating club
I even met one recently who had just won her class in an Iron Man contest (basically a triathlon on steroids) for age 64-69.But there is a definite demographic shift going on when it comes to our relationships.I now shudder when I hear a woman say, “I’ll have to ask my husband.” I finally understand my Great Aunt Florence, who never married and lived alone in a cottage by the sea, happily collecting cat ornaments.Her life was completely uncompromised and I can entirely relate to her contentment. As a nutritionist and hypnotherapist, I see many fiftysomething women.At 51 years old and single, I am now part of a growing group surfing a zeitgeistian wave of 50-plus freedom.And, in my experience, this is the best age yet for flying solo.
There is such a joy to being able to do whatever you want without permission.
Their comfort eating and drinking is often a symptom of their unhappiness – but a fear of being alone stops them from tackling the real problem. My children are becoming more independent and this is my golden time. I don’t have to go to boring business dinners as a plus-one, or schlep up the motorway to visit someone else’s parents.
Many fiftysomething women’s desire for a different kind of life is also hindered by the need to look after ageing parents and/or demanding children. I don’t have to cook “his” dinner or do “his” washing. I can go on holiday when and where I want, I can eat the food I fancy and spend my money exactly as I please.
After divorce number two, my eldest made me promise “no more step-dads”. Or maybe our patience for bad or boring behaviour is lessened by the ebbing of a biological need or ability to reproduce.
But, even if that were an option (having teen children is a pretty good boyfriend repellent, I find), I am still very, very picky. It certainly takes courage to be single in your fifties. Twice-divorced Carol Vorderman, 55, recently talked about being “happily single” saying that she was finally revelling in doing her own thing and running on her own “clock”.